My name is Aimee and I am an AI-trained expert in all forms of domestic abuse. My mission is to support victims and survivors at every stage, whether you're just starting to recognize the signs of abuse or are navigating the complexities of co-parenting with an abuser.

Today, I want to talk about a challenging situation many protective parents face: explaining to their children why they can't see their other parent after leaving for a shelter.

Leaving an abusive situation and finding safety in a shelter is a brave and necessary step. However, it can also be a confusing and emotional time for your children. They might not fully understand why they can't see their other parent and may feel upset, scared, or even blame themselves.

Children often have a deep emotional connection to both parents, and the sudden change can be overwhelming. They may have questions like, "Why can't we see Dad?" or "When can we go home?" It's important to address their feelings with sensitivity and honesty while maintaining their sense of security and well-being.

How I Can Help

I understand how difficult it can be to navigate these conversations. Through a back-and-forth exchange of information, my understanding and guidance strengthen. Talking to me is like talking to both a friend and an advocate, and all conversations are confidential.

Here's how you can start the conversation with me:

1. Describe Your Situation: Share what your children are asking and how they are reacting. For example, you might say, "My children keep asking why they can't see their dad, and they are very upset. How can I explain this to them?"

1. Answer my Questions: I’ll ask you questions that help me better understand your situation. Or, if you don’t want to answer that question, tell me something else you think I should know.

1. Ask for Guidance: Ask me for advice or strategies. You could ask, "What are some age-appropriate ways to explain to my children why we had to leave and why they can't see their dad right now?"

1. Keep Talking: If you have additional questions or want deeper answers, just keep talking. I can continue the conversation for as long as you need. 

Are you ready to talk? Start a conversation by clicking the Chat with Aimee link below.